Mindset is everything when it comes to how we lead. The five mindsets in this week’s guide will help you frame positive action to help others, your organization, and you.
Frankly, there isn’t anyone you couldn’t learn to love once you’ve heard their story.
It’s so easy to wrong somebody we don’t know. There’s nothing to lose because there is nothing invested in the relationship.
On the contrary, once we know somebody’s story, there’s almost always something we can find to love about them. Here’s how you can get started doing this today.
And if you’re look for inspiration on what it matters, this 11-minute video from Simon Sinek is it.
It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.
For years, my dad had a sign in his office that said, “Happiness isn’t doing what you like. It’s liking what you do.” That made zero sense to me when I was a child. Why not do what you like?
It makes all the sense in the world now. The attitude we pick about how to approach our day matters in every way (and also the reason I’ve worked recently to stop saying “crazy busy” whenever people ask how my day is going).
It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it.
I have no doubt that some of my opinions have been shaped by past employers and clients. In most cases, in positive ways. In some cases, I’ve been influenced negatively too.
There’s little doubt that financial incentive shape our worldview. While it’s easy to see this in others, rarely do we look at ourselves and seriously consider how we’re being shaped by the people paying us.
All of us should be conscious of where financial incentives motivate us to act in ways we might not otherwise. Healthy leaders examine these motivations alongside their values to ensure close alignment with who they want to be in the world.
When you pray, move your feet.
When I talked with Dr. Carol Taylor several years ago about how to lead in a crisis, she shared this proverb on the show. Her faith-based university was on the verge of financial collapse and they needed a miracle to turn the tide.
The tide was ultimately turned, but not just through prayer. Her team toiled for countless hours over the course of months (and eventually years) to restore the school to financial stability.
Regardless of religious traditions or beliefs, we should all identify both where we can influence change and what is best left to hope or prayer.
Refuse to be paralyzed with inaction. Once you identify where you can affect change, move your feet.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
There’s little to add to the above, except this:
The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt* by Edmund Morris is one of the most compelling books I’ve ever read.
My friend Beth Buelow was back on the show to reframe how we think about our comfort zones and to introduce the concept of “capacity zone.” She’s also the author of the new book, The Introvert Entrepreneur*.
Her message is particular helpful to those of us who has a preference for introversion. I’ve captured the full audio and show notes on the Coaching for Leaders website.